Here's something to think about.
On tonight's episode of "House", one of the 'cottages' (the newer doctors who are working with House) gets a surprise visit from his father. His dad tells him he brought his mother. It's her birthday. Dr. Foreman hasn't been home to see them in 8 years. She is turning 60, and apparently has some Alzheimer's-like issues going on. Foreman is uncomfortable with the situation. Dad is insistent.
"She should see you, while she still knows who you are."
"Dad, I've talked to her on the phone. She only knows who I am...sometimes.
That is profound. According to me. It's palliative care to my frequent all or nothing, black or white thinking.
Sometimes is important. I'm thinking about it.